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PRESSURE OF THE BLOGGING WORLD

PRESSURE OF THE BLOGGING WORLD

Today I want to talk about the pressure of the blogging world. I haven’t been a blogger for too long; I think it has been four month now. I didn’t expect this much pressure on myself that I project from the overall pressure on the blogging world to myself. Because of all the fantastic and stunning pictures on Instagram, Twitter or whatever platform you are using, you get the feeling that everyone’s lives is better than yours which I will talk about in the following section.

PERFECTIONISM

Pressure. What exactly is that? Here the general definition: the exertion of force upon a surface by an object, fluid, etc., in contact with it.

Because of the influence of social media you think you have to be perfect, every single day. Everyone else seems to be perfect, and has everything figured out. Even though nowadays there are more bloggers who talk about their struggles, there is still this huge bubble of perfection which you don’t want to destroy.

If you are not looking perfect on social media or on your blog, others reject you. The perfectness seems to be an escape for others from the real life. Trough reading blogs of apparently perfect people, they feel part of the perfectness and with that more confident. And yeah, If you don’t have this perfect life you are not gonna be successful. That is what the pictures tell me; I don’t know if you feel the same. We are human, we know that we are not perfect but we still try to be. That is just stupid, I can’t say it in any other words.

PRESSURE OF MAKING MONEY

There is also the pressure of making money. Maybe I am the only one feeling this but I still wanted to talk about it. Sure I would love to make money with blogging, who wouldn’t, but that is not the main reason why I blog. People talk about their income trough blogging, YouTube or whatsoever; often it is an immense amount. That puts the pressure on you to make loads of money, otherwise you are not a good blogger.

The money you make should not value you as a blogger or person.

LEARN TO BE A BEGINNER

I feel this pressure on myself to be good at everything from the beginning on. Good pictures, good content and good whatsoever. I am not allowing myself to make mistakes. Recently I wrote a blog post about my anxiety and procrastination with blogging-you can check it out here.

I think something like: OMG, why would people go on my blog when they have other blogs where everything looks perfect. I know I am a beginner and  I will get better at what I am doing. I feel like I need to have everything figured out before I start blogging because every other blog seems to have.

HARDER THAN EXPECTED

Know those yummy food pictures on Insta? You can’t even imagine how hard it is to take a good picture of your food if you are not a blogger or If you haven’t tried out to do that yet. I loved photography before but it is a whole new level to take this kind of pictures. Especially still life photography. Dang, it is SO hard. They look so simple but drive me nuts.

BLOGGING COMMUNITY/FRIENDS

I know I am a beginner and I will grow with time but being a beginner sucks. Nobody likes to be one. I want everything to be perfect right now and I put so much pressure on myself because of that. That is why I am struggling with blogging so much.

Yeah, they are nice bloggers out there who support each other but I haven’t talked to any of them, with other words: I haven’t made blogging friends yet. So if you want to talk, I am here. I would love to have somebody to chat to in the blogging community who struggles (or who doesn’t struggle) like me. So if you are that person, hit me up. (:

THE STRUGGLE IS REAL – SHOULD I QUIT?

The last point is the reason why so many bloggers quit is because they compare themselves to others and they think: Oh my god, I don’t have this beautiful and perfect life like everyone else does. I shouldn’t blog because I am not worth it. I am not worth telling somebody else about my life. And here it is again. That is so stupid. You may think that your life is not that exciting but it is to other people, I promise. Even if your life is boring, talk about the boredom during your day on your blog. Endless options; try to explore them.

WHAT TO DO TO TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF

  1. Self-confidence – As bloggers we have to build self-confidence. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have a blog if you don’t have that much of it but building this confidence is so important and helpful in many aspects of life. Yeah, I am talking about this right now but that doesn’t mean that I am not struggling with that. Check out the blogs that talk about this: you may find much help there.
  2. Comparison – We should stop comparing ourselves. I basically say this to myself because this is probably the biggest struggle for me. Even though we have a total different life and opinions, I still compare myself to everyone else,  I want to be that person because they seem to be greater and more exciting than I me. They are not, and when I am asking myself if I want to be them I would always say no. I am proud to be myself with all my struggles and mistakes. I have to remind myself of that. Comparison crushes your self-confidence that you are trying to build in point one.
  3. Relax – It sounds pretty stupid, I know, but blogging should be fun. Struggling is fine and normal but If it doesn’t bring you any joy, what’s the point in blogging for you? You want to make money blogging? That is an awesome and desirable  goal. Relax a little with meditation or everything else that helps you to do so.

TOO MANY BLOGGERS – NO CHANCE TO BE SUCCESSFUL

What I also wanted to say is that there is blog room for everyone. Many people say that there are too many blogs and blah blah blah. But hey, there are so many books out there in this world and nobody complains about that. You can read different blogs like you read different books.
I have to be honest, when I started my blog I thought I could never have the chance to become a successful blogger. But everyone does. Everyone tries to be, some quit, some just can’t handle it. Remind yourself: It is possible! Many bloggers make good money, some even can live off writing. That is truly amazing!

 

Have a wonderful evening, or whatever time you are reading this. I would love to know your thoughts on this, and if you feel this pressure too (I hope I am not the only one). I would love to know, I really do.

Bye Bye

berry xx



17 thoughts on “PRESSURE OF THE BLOGGING WORLD”

  • This is very insightful. I respect what you’ve written because all of use bloggers that have started out have the same feeling of nagging pressure and lack of confidence in our abilities. The real issue is that we feel that other bloggers are our competition when in reality our only competition is ourselves.
    This resonates with me as well so I thank you for sharing it.

  • I have been where you are. I have been at it for almost two years and I have 5 sites now. You really just have to concentrate on doing it your own way, not the way THEY all tell you to. I do make money now but it really does take time.

  • I’ve struggled with being obsessive over perfection all my life…
    Because of how I was raised and the strict private school system I was educated in I felt like this since I was six, and it was all horrible. all my closest friends ( who actually are the ones who I’ve known since we were 4 or 6 years old and went to the same schools together) feel the same. We put pressure on ourselves to be the best and do the best.

    And it’s just horrible.

    I started blogging for fun, but still I stress out because I’m not posting as much as I should or because the pictures are not as good or whatever ridiculous limits I’ve imposed to myself.

    Let me just say that reading your post and feeling like I can 100% relate to you was just cathartic. It’s just good to know that there is someone out there that gets it.

    Sorry for the long comment, and thank you so much for posting this!

    Maria

    • Thank you so much for your comment! No worries, long comments are my favs <3
      So glad somebody feels the same like me. Blogging was planned as just fun for me but because of all the pressure it feels more like a job.
      It was good to hear from you <3

  • I don’t like being a beginner either! I wanto to skip this part and go straight to pro-blogger! We’ll make it though babe, no pressure, just enjoy writing xx

  • This is a great post – I’m a new blogger too and I’m already feeling the pressure when I comes to putting out consistent high quality content while keeping my traffic up!

Would love to hear from you <3


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